Break Out of Your Own Prison

Anger and Resentment Traps Us into a Prison of Our Own Making

Human perception is always flawed by nature and we, oftentimes, only see what we want to see, not what is actually there. From moment to moment, we do what we think is best, based on what we perceive. If what we are perceiving is flowing through a filter of intense pain and anguish, it becomes increasingly easy to displace the blame of what we are feeling onto others. Especially if there are manipulative forces at work, pulling us in a direction that triggers, and even validates, the perceived reasons for our suffering. I know this, because I've displaced emotions too; we all have. Developing the emotional intelligence we require, in order to avoid displacing our emotions onto others, is a concept we all must learn on our own and it is a lifelong, step-by-step process. It is important to understand that no one 'makes' us feel anything; the feelings come from within us. There is no blame here, it is harmful to blame yourself, as well as others; blame only fuels resentment. Furthermore, we cannot be held responsible for something we did not understand at the time.

We are all human, so it is important to give each other, and ourselves, the love, patience, and grace we all deserve as we grow; not only for others, but more importantly, for ourselves. It is crucial we do not poison our own hearts with bitterness or anger. Please be patient with those who consistently experience life through a filter of pain and suffering; they haven't had the opportunity to learn how to process their emotions in a healthier way. And if you are finding yourself consistently displacing your emotions, it is vital that you are patient with yourself as well. Working through repressed pain and suffering is a long, difficult process, and it requires persistence, patience, and professional intervention. Additionally, if you happen to become the target of someone else's vicious emotional displacement, work to maintain healthy boundaries, distancing yourself if necessary, in order to preserve your peace. Meanwhile, take precautions to avoid harboring any resentment of your own, because the only person who actually suffers from your own bitterness and hatred, is you.